James Park

Breaking Cycles

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A Cheat Week, Joining a Program

Not a typical article. A walkthrough of my decision to join Ship30for30 and my goals for this 30 day writing program.

What Now?

Arriving at my goal to write for one year, I found myself asking “what now?”

I answered, “be curious.”

Saying No and Its Reversal

The trick is understanding that progress is built with commitment and time. We may be saying “yes” too often in a year, chasing the new thing, leading to overestimation. But by balancing with “no”, we may be able to accomplish more than we think.

Balance Matrix

Does your life feel unbalanced? Mine does too. So I came up with a simple matrix to visualize balance based on pleasure, income, mental, and physical activities to help find what’s missing.

The Trick

There’s a scene from Lawrence of Arabia, where Lawrence puts out a match with his fingers. He explains “the trick, is not minding that it hurts.” I was entranced by this line and wondered if we could use this mentality with negative emotions.

Stop the Scroll

When stuck in a depression scroll, don’t try to stop it. Instead, just scroll to the next thing. What’s depression scroll? Glad you asked.

Fail to Success

Failing is when an expectation has yet to occur. We attach the negativity ourselves.

Inquiry, Writing Instead of Trying

Byron Katie’s Inquiry process brought me out of a negative spiral. It helped me to actually write, instead of trying to write.

Present Thoughts

Being present isn’t about trying to do one thing. It’s just doing the thing, and then doing the next.

Satisfaction

Create a satisfaction loop by being specific, feeling progress, and accepting reality.

Consistency

Rome was not built in a day. It was built with consistency.

Gratefulness for the Ungrateful

To practice gratefulness, don’t force yourself to think of something positive. Instead, start with going on the offense.

Rip Currents

Rip currents will grip you if you let it. Depression is the same.

It’s Okay to Compare

A common piece of advice for life is to not compare yourself to others. It seems a bit ironic though when comparison is present in

It’s Okay to Have Negative Thoughts

The title may be an unpopular opinion, but hear me out. It’s okay to have negative thoughts because it’s actually normal. It may not feel

Routines Build Freedom

Having a daily routine could sound like it would make life rigid and inflexible. Maybe we imagine a routined life to feel like prison and

It’s Okay To Not Be Okay

This week, I’m taking a break from the Living Accidentally series. Partially because I’m not quite sure of a topic and partially because I want